While no one wants to contemplate the possibility that they are being cheated on, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. So if you suspect that the leading lady in your life could be becoming the leading lady in someone else’s, here are 11 telltale signs that she might be cheating…
1. You’re not a team anymore
One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you’ve got someone by your side whenever life throws a curveball your way and an on-call cheerleader who wants to see you slay. But if you two are no longer working together through life, it could be a sign that your girlfriend is cheating. While independence is a good thing in any relationship, there is a line.
2. She points out ALL of your flaws
Sure, a little constructive criticism never goes amiss, but if you feel like your girlfriend only ever has negative things to say about you, then it’s a surefire sign that something is up. She might be coming down hard on you to justify to herself why she has fallen into someone else’s arms.
3. She tracks your every move
This is a tricky one, but if your girlfriend constantly wants to know where you are, it’s not a good thing. She might be keeping tabs on you so that she can get her lover in and out of her place (or the one you share) before you come home. That or she’s just plain possessive.
4. She’s dismissive
A relationship is a two-way street and you should be able to tell your girlfriend about what’s going on in your life. If she tries to change the subject whenever you try to talk to her and is generally more dismissive than she used to be, she could be cheating.
5. She’s staying late at work
This is a concerning sign for one of two reasons. Your girlfriend could be staying late at work because she doesn’t want to spend time with you now she’s got someone else, or worse, her bit on the side just so happens to work in her office.
6. She’s not opening up to you anymore
Like I’ve said before, if you’re in a relationship, you’re a part of a team and that means you know you’ve got someone to talk to about your problems. So if your girlfriend suddenly decides to stop opening up to you, it could be a sign that she’s opening up to someone else.
7. She’s got a lot of new friends
Is your girlfriend suddenly hanging out with a bunch of new people? And is she prioritizing them over spending time with you? Then these “new friends” could be an excuse for her to cheat without actually having to deal with the inconvenience of breaking up with you.
8. You’re having trouble in the bedroom
If you’re constantly initiating sex, or feel like your girlfriend just isn’t as into it as she used to be, then it’s a red flag that she could be getting her kicks elsewhere. A healthy sex life is an important part of any relationship, and it’s probably one of the biggest signs that all is not well in yours.
9. She gives her phone more attention than you
I could never be with someone who pays more attention to their Facebook timeline than me. When you’re with your girlfriend, she should be getting the majority of your attention. If she is suddenly glued to her phone, she could be looking at more than just memes.
10. She’s got a dramatic makeover
While it’s always nice to see your girlfriend make an effort for you, if she has suddenly changed her look dramatically and she’s doing anything else on this list, it’s not a bad idea to consider the possibility that she’s trying to impress someone else.
11. She’s hiding things
Everyone needs space in a relationship, but if your girlfriend suddenly freaks out whenever you go near her phone or laptop, then she definitely has something to hide and it’s probably not a romantic getaway for your anniversary.
A good relationship is built on trust. While we’d all like to trust our girlfriends absolutely, subtle changes in her behavior really can say a lot. Confronting your girlfriend about cheating on you isn’t easy, but it’s better than being foolish enough to turn a blind eye. How To Tell If Your Girlfriend Is Cheating
Knowing how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating can take a bit of detective work, especially if you want to (and should)take the high moral road and avoid invading her privacy. The below signs, especially when several show up at the same time, are the best hints you’re likely to get.
However, while all of these signs make a cheating girlfriend more probable, none of them offer definitive proof.
It’s important to point out that none of these signs she’s cheating makes it a sure-fire certainty that she is actually cheating, or even looking to cheat. There are perfectly innocent reasons she might act in any one or several of the ways listed above.
The best way to get at the truth is the most direct: simply ask her. She may or may not lie, but bringing your suspicions out into the open is far more likely to lead to the truth than a bunch of secretive snooping.
My Girlfriend Cheated On Me… What Now?
So, it’s no longer “is she cheating… and it’s now “my girlfriend cheated on me… now what?”
First, I’m sorry. A horrible, horrible thing has happened, that you likely didn’t deserve.
To be clear, none of these signs guarantee a cheating girlfriend… but if you see a lot of these happening in your relationship, it’s time to start worrying and, maybe expecting the worst.
Here are 23 signs your girlfriend is cheating:
1. SHE’S TALKING WAY TOO MUCH TO SOMEONE
This is perhaps the most obvious sign your girlfriend is cheating of them all.
Is she always chatting or texting with some new guy? Then, she’s probably cheating. However, keep in mind, it may not be all that easy to know if she’s talking to someone.
It would take a particularly brazen cheater to regularly text the other person right in front of you. It’s much more likely that the communication is not that straightforward. She may email the other person instead of texting—perhaps when you’re asleep or out doing something else—or she may talk to them only while at work.
If both parties are trying to keep this secret, they probably are doing at least that bare minimum to keep you off the scent. But if your partner is that obviousabout it, things are probably in a pretty bad state in your relationship.
2. SHE CHANGES THE SUBJECT WHEN A CERTAIN SOMEONE COMES UP
Need some help flushing out whether she’s talking to someone new? One way to know if something is up is by gauging her reaction when a particular person comes up in conversation.
Does she try to change the subject or act unnaturally disinterested or dismissive after she’s spent time with that person? Alternatively, does she gush about that person, even compare him to you, every time you bring his name up?
That kind of extreme behavior is a good sign she’s interested.
3. SHE’S BUSY AND WON’T SAY WHERE SHE’S BEEN
If you are looking for more evidence of sign she’s cheating number 1, it may show up here. Instead of texting in front of you, there are now just gaps where she’s not available, and she’s not offering up very convincing reasons.
This is also perhaps just about as noticeable a sign as you can find because you feel the difference distinctly. It may be what made you starting thinking about her cheating in the first place.
The contrast can be pretty stark:
- She used to have all the time in the world for you—now, her schedule’s packed.
- She used to be passionate about going out to the movies, trying new restaurants, and even just sitting around on the couch—now, she sees those activities as not worth her time.
- She used to want to go find new adventures on the weekend—now, she’s happy for you to have separate free-time activities.
Basically, now, she’s always busy, and she won’t tell you what’s keeping her away.
4. SHE’S ALWAYS WORKING